With ever increasing hectic life schedules, changes in society and an increase in our connectivity over social media, online dating has become a common and convenient way to meet potential partners. Two in every 5 couples meet online and this is only expected to increase in the future. Whilst dating apps and websites to find “The One'' can be overwhelming, there are some simple steps that can be followed. This blog will help provide you with valuable tips to navigate from creating a compelling profile to the first date and beyond.
Self-Reflection - What are you really looking for?
Before diving into the online dating world, take some time for self-reflection. Consider what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship. This self-awareness will help you create a profile that accurately represents you and who you are looking for. Be honest with yourself in the same way you would want others to be with you.
Choose the Right Dating Platform
Actually it is ok to use multiple platforms in the same way you would go to different places to meet new people. However different platforms cater to different demographics and relationship styles, so do your research if you are being more specific about who you want to date. Platforms that allow you to create compatibility algorithms or allow you to choose your preferences are always recommended over simple swipe left or right offerings.
Pick your Best Pictures
Even before creating a profile, pick your best 4-5 pictures that showcase your personality and appearance. So many of us go to set up an online dating profile and either have no recent, high quality photos or only photos with big groups of friends. Use recent photos that show you and only you in at least 3 of the pictures. The best dating profiles are those that can couple a great bio with authentic, unedited, good quality photos.
Craft an Authentic Profile
Now you have selected your photos, it is time to create your bio. Be honest about yourself, your interests, and your wants. Some dating platforms will prompt you to answer questions to help create your bio. These are great especially if you have a mind blank so go ahead and answer them.
Be Proactive but Patient
Once your profile is set up, don't be passive and wait for others to message you. If you want to find “The One”, initiate conversations, respond to messages, and show genuine interest in others. An easy way to start a conversation is using ‘CIQ’ - Compliment, Introduction, Question. E.g. Nice picture with the dog…My name is Josh,...What breed is the dog and is it yours? However, remember that finding the right person may take time, so be patient.
Go on Dates!
So many people end up having conversations for weeks and weeks without actually asking to meet or even going on a date. When comfortable, ask the person you are talking to if they would like to meet for a date. This does a few things - 1) confirm to yourself you actually like the person 2) confirm if the person actually likes you and not just wasting your time 3) through in-person dates, it will help you identify what you like Vs what you may actually think you might like. Suggestion is to ask someone for an in-person date after 10 messages - or before if it feels right.
First Dates
Effective communication is key to building a connection. Be a good listener, ask open-ended questions, and show genuine interest in the other person and be fun! If you feel there is a lack of chemistry it is ok to say this and suggest to end the date. Follow up with your date with a message to tell them how much you like them or, that you feel it would be best not to meet again.
Manage Expectations and Learn from Rejections
It's essential to manage your expectations when using online dating platforms. Not every interaction will lead to a meaningful relationship, and that's okay. Be open to meeting different people and learning from each experience. Online dating can come with its share of rejections and setbacks. Instead of getting discouraged, view these experiences as opportunities for personal growth and learning. Use them to refine your approach and better understand what you're truly looking for in a partner. Enjoy the process and have fun.
Safety
Generally online dating is a super safe experience. However, protect your personal information, such as your home address and phone number, until you're comfortable sharing them. Arrange to meet in public places for first dates, and let a friend or family member know about your plans.
Conclusion
Online dating and finding "The One" is a journey that requires self-awareness, patience, and a proactive approach. By following the tips outlined in this blog, you can increase your chances of finding a meaningful and lasting relationship through online dating. Stay true to yourself, enjoy the process, have fun and keep an open heart.
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